Did you know there are a significant amount of single people moving to Mexico?
And this can be good news for a variety of reasons. The most obvious is if there are singles with singles, it’s the chance to make new friendships. Possibly new relationships too.
Being single in Mexico gives you the flexibility to move to another city or another part of town if you wish.
But there are also a lot of couples moving to Mexico that may not find their footing right away. And might not be so eager to make new friends or connections with their local community because they have each other.
I want to tell you why I think it’s extremely important to make new friends or build a network as soon as you can when you move to Mexico. And don’t worry this applies to anyone- even if you are socially gifted.
Let me explain
A Community of People You Can Trust
The time has finally come. You have your household goods packed. You’ve rented a place you like in Mexico. And you’re getting settled into your new life abroad. This is a great opportunity for you to reinvent yourself, take up a new hobby, or meet new people.
And while I’m on the topic of meeting new people, I want to stress the importance of building a community.
When we think of community, we might think of volunteering, donating to a good cause, or other types of community outreach. These are all good commendable deeds but won’t help you in a personal crisis.
Make It A Priority to Make New Friends
The type of community, tribe, or network I am referring to is more personal.
All too often, you’ll read stories of expats falling ill or becoming incapacitated while either vacationing long term or living as residents here in Mexico.
For every expat who has done their due diligence and researched living in Mexico, secured health insurance, and developed a network of friends who can assist them in the daily ins and outs of living in a foreign country- there are just as many foreigners who for no fault of their own or lack of planning do not have this community in place.
This can be for a variety of reasons. It may be that they’re more of an introvert or might not have a lot of extra money to go out and meet others. Or perhaps they have had health issues or mobility issues. Maybe they don’t know enough Spanish to meet some of the locals.
Or it’s one of those things that many of us don’t think about.
But for whatever reasons they are basically alone. And in a stressful situation, having an emergency can become a bigger issue.
These are a few examples:
- A handicapped individual living alone, without private transportation requires medications; visits to their doctor, assistance with shopping, and no community ties to even ask for assistance. To make matters worse- they don’t know enough Spanish and this breaks their confidence in finding resources that can help them.
- An Individual living alone in Mexico suddenly has a heart attack And has a pet or dependent child. But has no family or friends in town.
- You want to get medical attention, open a bank account, buy or register a car, pay your bills, etc but don’t know how to go about it.
People You Should Connect With ASAP
Of course, everyone’s first thought is why did they come to Mexico in the first place without thinking of the good and the bad?
In response to that- everyone has their own personal reasons for relocating, whether it be for financial reasons, climate, work, etc. but inevitably they fail to think of the day-to-day living experiences they will encounter. It’s a very innocent mistake.
That’s why I want to tell you about these realities especially if you plan to move to Mexico alone.
In the above examples, all of these people got themselves to Mexico. No problem.
But a lot of expats, especially retirees, tend to forget the importance of making a few friends right away. Or at the very least, establishing a relationship with a medical provider in the local area. Someone you can call in case of an emergency.
Absolutely no one plans for worst-case scenarios and back home one would not think twice about how to get a bank account etc. but remember, this is not the US. Procedures are different and nothing happens as fast as you would like. Just calling 911 in Mexico can be a daunting experience, as well as navigating the various government agencies, especially if you don’t speak the language.
Nurses, Doctors, Cops, Paramedics, Roadside Assistance, etc. are just a few examples of services you may need to deal with in an emergency- who may or may not speak English.
Tips To Build A Local Network in Mexico
So, let’s go through a few basic things that can mean the difference between a good outcome in an emergency situation and an even more pleasant quality of life experience living your dream.
Learn Spanish -This is a game-changer. At a minimum, learn some basic phrases. The more consistent you get at practicing, the better speaker you become. And life becomes much less complicated- trust me. Even just a few words go a long way! There is also usually a variety of Spanish conversation groups throughout many cities in Mexico- which is a great way to meet others in the area.
Meet your neighbors– Whether they are Locals or expats, they are a wealth of information. Don’t be afraid of the language barrier. Mexicans are very gracious people and welcoming. Undoubtedly, your neighbors will be your first contact in a crisis.
Attend social events- Get out and meet others like yourselves. Socialize and share experiences. Whether it’s at a restaurant, trivia night, game night, or club. Facebook is full of groups for families and individuals looking to interact, and almost every city and town has a specific group tailored to specific or general needs. Most of the meetups are 100% free- you just pay for what you consume.
Go on a relocation tour with one of our recommended private tour guides. Our recommended tour guides are people who live in a local area. They know other people, and they can easily connect you with some of them so you can quickly start building your network. Going on a relocation tour is like visiting a city with a friend—someone who can show you the ropes and help you meet others. And there is NO agenda to sell you real estate.. so you won’t have to worry about that awkward sales pitch.
Volunteer– volunteering is a fantastic way to meet new people and integrate into your community. Whether it’s helping at a local animal shelter, helping a local school, teaching English, participating in beach or environmental clean-ups, or supporting a community project, volunteering allows you to make meaningful connections with people from all backgrounds. Many organizations welcome volunteers regardless of language skills, so don’t let that hold you back. Plus, giving back is one of the most rewarding ways to feel at home in a new place while forming friendships and learning more about the culture.
Join a gym- Join a gym or a wellness studio and take classes. This is how I have made tons of friends in my late 30s when it seems almost impossible to meet new people. Plus, it will help you stay in shape and get those endorphins out.
What Happens in An Emergency?
All of the tips I just listed are there to help you become more social and are relatively easy to do. Don’t get me wrong- you don’t have to be a social butterfly to implement some of these. You can attend as many events as you want or go only once a month until you find your people.
But let’s talk about the lesser known realities of life and how you can make sure you get help when you really need it far from home.
If you have very introverted neighbors or a neighbor living alone check in on them from time to time. If you are nervous about being alone in a foreign country, ask them to do the same for you.
Some of the most important things you can do are:
- Note emergency numbers for Fire, Health, Police, Ambulance, Doctor, and Pharmacy for your city. Post them on your refrigerator and your phone to access them quickly if needed.
- Prepare a list of emergency contacts and vital information. Family, Friends, and persons to notify should you become incapacitated. Include insurance policies, banks, and passwords with instructions on what to do in specific cases, especially when children are involved. Above all, make sure someone knows where to locate this information.
- Write down your doctor’s number. Or better yet, save it on your phone.
- If your doctor only uses Whatsapp, get familiar with the app. You don’t want to try and figure it out until you absolutely need it.
Here’s a quick video showing you how to use it WhatsApp. 😉
- Install apps on your phone for your local pharmacy and supermarket. The beauty of Mexico is you can have almost all the necessities of life delivered for free or at a minimal cost.
- Prepare a short version of the above information, place it in a sealed envelope and give it to a friend or neighbor you can rely on to make calls and start things happening. None of this important info will be of any benefit to you in an Emergency Situation if only you know where to find it and no one knows how to make critical notification.
Moving to Mexico can be a rewarding experience, the culmination of all of your hopes and dreams for a carefree life abroad. But it can also become a nightmare if you are not properly prepared.
Share this article with someone you care about if they are considering moving to Mexico and help them be prepared! 👍
Ellen Zucker says
What an excellent article, Marianna! Those of us planning to move abroad spend lots of time scoping out our new homes and preparing for our moves, but we tend not to think enough about prudent steps to take once we arrive. You’ve done us a real service.
Mariana Lange says
So glad you found this to be useful!
It’s my pleasure
Gerald Young says
Hi Mariana,
Thanks for sharing this information. It is very helpful!
Question: Do you know the best affordable and safest neighborhoods a solo ex-pat can live in Merida, Mexico?
Kindest Regards,
Gerald Young
Mariana Lange says
Hi Gerald. Yeap! Here is a good piece on that topic https://mexicorelocationguide.com/merida/
Kiki says
¡Muchas gracias!
Such a great article because if one has been “settled in” for a good while, one may forget how to start building relationships.
Many of MRG members are newly retired and may have relied on workmates for socializing.